You Failed This Year? Awesome! – My Tips On How To End A Shit Year.

So I usually write up a happy, happy, fluffy, fluffy goal setting blog around this time of year for my followers. Riddled with goal crushing tips and tricks and a patronising undertone of how to be the best version of you, because this is your year, remember? (Side note, every year is your year – high five sista!)

 

But there seems to be some serious social hate surrounding poor 2016 that everyone seems to be getting on board with, so I figured a self righteous blog about writing S.M.A.R.T goals isn’t going to resonate with you. When sometimes the ugly truth is that we try a little better and yet another year drags by with us still no further along, and we start off the refreshed year with deep remorse for our decisions.

 

Lets touch firstly on all the articles, blogs and memes you’ve seen floating around the last few days. You know the ones, about 2016 taking all of legendary celebrities lives, or that 2016 can go to hell, or that it’s been a trying year for all. And if read the deeper articles there is some spooky stuff going on with numerology and chakras blah blah blah, and that’s cool too and probably has some decent backbone to it.

 

But what I want to talk to you about is how low we are all feeling. Yep, it’s real. You haven’t been imagining it; its there and we are all crawling to the start of 2017 on our knees with hope in our eyes that this unlucky year will leave us be.

 

Next, lets do some vulnerability check-ins shall we? Cause I love that shit and you guys love my real, awkward and no bull approach.

 

Here we go:

 

I have failed at some major things this year.

 

There I said it.

 

I have failed so hard and fast at some adult stuff this year, that I hit my head on the way down. I failed the deepest and darkest and hardest, so you could say I failed spectacularly, I probably failed the best, hang on, so I’m really the winner at failing?

 

Failing is so cool. I love failing, mainly because, if you know me through my blog or even personally, I am a story teller – through words in any way. I love a good dramatic and slightly fabricated story to make people feel lighter and the odd laugh at misfortune – because no one likes a story of brilliance and success all the time……boring, we like hardship and comedy combined. So every time I fail, I say to myself, that’s gunna be a great story. It also makes you more resilient for the mammoth future failures to come – yep spoiler alert, life is hard and you’re going to fail a lot.

 

 

On the flip side, this year has been phenomenal for me in areas I never expected.  Really exciting areas of my life and my personality have blossomed and I’ve learnt so much about myself as a person. So, granted 2016 in my best description, has “just been weird” but I am ending 2016 with clarity of who I am and what makes me happy, with a slight understanding of my place in the world around me and a decent approach of where I’m heading – not a down right comprehension of it all, but close enough, and that my friends, is all I need to transition into 2017.

 

So many people this time of year do a ‘close off’, they sweep the last year under the carpet and welcome in the next year, set some new goals and right off the year.  But what I would like you to do is to totally honor what you have failed at. Yes it has been a shit year, for some more than others. But I suggest you put your big girls pants on and reflect on what you’ve learnt, openly tell people “I failed this year, and I’m so ok with that”, and remember that no bad year is a waste – it is merely a layby year to the big, momentous years that shine through.

 

I said I wouldn’t do it – but here are my goal crushing tips for 2017:

  1. Fail a little harder, because it’ll make you even more awesome, and funny and interesting as a person.
  2. Do something that you haven’t done before. This could be eating a vegetable that you’ve never eaten before or trekking the Himalayas, your choice.
  3. Drink more water and get more sleep, because we all need that.
  4. Get your chakra sorted sweetheart.

 

So yes, due to numbers and the moon and chakras, we have all had a really trying, exhausting and stressful year.  So what. We’re all adults, doing our best, with what we’ve got, and failing along the way.

 

So hands in the air if you failed this year? Awesome! I am so very proud of you. Tell me all about it! Please send me an email and share your failure and see if you can make me laugh.

 

Pen xxx